Words for Lil from Memorial 8/17/14
giving unqualified love.
My protector, my champion.
I ache for you so…
Lunches with Lil: meat rare, fries extra crispy, lots of lemons, be prepared to defend your opinions.
A brilliant and persuasive woman whose unique perspective altered many of my previously entrenched beliefs.
Larry M Harrigan
Friday night dinners: Lil in her cat sweatshirt & slippers with a glass of wine, talking about books.
Lil was a GREAT great-grandma and I will miss her.
Lillian was my greatest mentor – my advocate and unrelenting barometer.
I will always miss her.
I’m sure I’m not alone in calling her a force of nature. Goodbye, dear one.
Lillian was endlessly curious and acerbic: essential attributes for making sense of our crazy world.
So grateful I got to know you. Your courage and candor continue to inspire me.
Meeting you was like meeting the sky: open and welcoming!
She was quite a gal and we’ll miss her so…
Wise, gutsy, ahead of her time, honest and inspirational. She will always be missed.
Ellen, Larry & Abby Dubois and Emily & Jeremy deVries
Purchase: designer blazer < cost.
Hated the buttons. Replaced them.
Cost: $$$$$$. Our Lil.
Lillian was a multidimensional human with a gift of writing, empathy, scholarship and beauty.
Cynthia & Howard Epstein
We loved Lil –
Enjoyed our SNL “Saturday Night Live” political/friendship discussions together –
And in our hearts she remains the most alive!
Lillian helped me imagine, I didn’t have to give up my politics for a PhD… & so much more…
Lillian remains my hero as a scholar/writer.
The wickedly funny email correspondence we shared is deeply missed.
Lillian was a big person–in mind and heart. Her work and her courage live on.
Always in my heart as therapist, friend and straight-talking mentor who changed my life forever.
astute, stubbornproud, unflinching
table in a quiet corner
iced tea, extra lemon
Cherished memories of Lillian: hiking together, arguing together, gossiping together, each of her brilliant books.
Lillian’s life serves as a joyful reminder that the privilege of having a public voice comes with responsibilities — to learn, grow, and share it in the pursuit of truth and fairness.
Lillian!! You were such a force in my life… and the live of so many. You modeled taking on the powers at play at Wright, and in the world, with such clarity, style & fierce focus! Love always,
Lillian profoundly touched the lives of all who met her and the thousands more who read her words.
I ease the ache for the sound of your voice, Lil, with a smile of celebration for your life -your uniqueness, your brilliance, your accomplishments, and your deep and enduring ability to love.
Dim Sum at Yang Sing:
No reservation at the height of the lunch hour? No problem.
Bonnie Kaiser, PhD
insightful and of service,
an evolved life,
a stunning example,
We have so appreciated Lil’s dedication and generosity for her grandson Blake and for expanding the family that loves him.
Maria Rosa Kaufman & John Littleton
Who was Lillian to us?
A beacon of lucidity.
A guardian of what was best in us.
A fierce example of courage.
So easy to love.
Sam Keen & Patricia deJong
I know great women.
Lillian was one of the greatest.
She lives incandescent in memory.
Lillian lived a grand and admirable life and contributed immensely to the community.
You can take the girl out of the Bronx,
But you can’t take the Bronx out of the girl.
Harry Levine & Troy Duster
Twenty years of wit and insights and sharing laughter and heart connections… dear Lillian.
We loved Lil for her love, her mind, her critiques, and her incredible, expansive knowledge & life. We will always remember the endless discussions, arguments & agreements.
She was an original.
Ann & Ernie Lieberman
Thanks for the care and attention you give to me. You make a real difference in my life. Lil, you were my home away from home. I will miss you Xo…
Marci did you proud.
You would have LOVED this party.
Lunch with Lil was always a great mix of affection and debate. I miss those a great deal.
In fifty years knowing Lil, she was brilliance, commitment, warmth, and above all fearless honesty.
Lunch at Garibaldi’s with Dr. Rubin!
Thanks Lil for being the first to welcome Bob and me to the Comstock, and for caring for us when we needed it most. The building will never be the same without you.
Love, Claudia Owen xo
Thank you, Lillian, for making so much clear and lighting the way for us.
It was a pleasure and a privilege to be counted among your many friends. Your footsteps are huge.
There is no way to capture how much Lillian taught and encouraged me and confided to me as a friend. I will always miss her.
Lillian was fierce!
I am lucky to have had such a wonderful friend and neighbor. I miss you.
(Rejected name–you bristled–but my heart name for you).
Brave you, wounded you.
In our exclusive 2-member wives-of-dementia support group, Lillian and I traded tips, jokes, consolation & love.
Alix Kates Shulman
A life force to treasure and embrace.
Charles & Rita Smith
What a dazzling incarnation of power and vulnerability with an infinite capacity for trail-blazing. Lil was a wonder!
Passionate, opinionated, loving, celebratory, our wedding officiant.
The struggle is over.
You will continue to inspire.
Rest, beloved friend.
Terry Stein & Chris Carmichael
Lil saw me as transcendent
And I knew she knew
The child needing love.
The adult who found it.
Authentic, incisive, devoted.
Lover of daffodils.
Two weeks old
At the table with
Lil was an example:
I recall Hank one time saying “he never felt more loved” (as a husband).
From then on I always listened to Lil differently.